New Years Resolutions, 2k18

Happy New Year, Everyone!!! We are already on day three of 2018. It’s already been a blur.

When I think of New Years I think of resolutions. Obviously, the every day stress will follow me from 2017 and 2018. But resolutions are a great way to reflect on the downsides of the previous year and the high times of the previous year. I can’t control everything but I can control who I am and how I react to the uncontrollably. Each year I like to reflect and revaluate what I want to accomplish, regardless of what it is.

Basically, resolutions are great. They give us a sense of a fresh start and fresh starting points. Every goal has a starting point and various ending points. They can not always be defined in a year. Reflection helps give those resolutions a bigger purpose. Progress is what matters.

I have my obvious resolutions such as eat healthier, work out more, get more sleep (never gonna happen). But I have a lot more passionate ones that I put a lot more thought into.

Here they are.

Be a better mother. This is one that I don’t think will ever leave the list. I am confident when I say that I’m a great mom but I’m not sure I’ll ever be good enough for my kids. Each year I hope to give them just a little more patience and a lot more love than I did the year before. My goal is to raise compassionate, intelligent adults. I want them to be the good in the world but I also want them to know reality and discipline. It’s a lot of pressure from one year to the next.

Change the world. This is another one that I think will be on her for awhile. I, obviously, want to continue to be kind and compassionate. I want to always find a way to be a positive moment in every ones day. Each year I want to find a way to contribute a little more to making this world a better place. I am not naïve enough to think I can single handily change the whole planet but I do believe I can make a small difference in someone’s life which in turn could change their own outlook of the world.

Be a better person in general. I know that my body is a lot smaller than the size of my heart. All of my intentions are good and my selflessness is endless but I do struggle with becoming detached from people and basically going MIA. I have an undying need for space and to keep to myself. It sounds harmless, but I have some very important people who deserve to hear from me on almost an every day basis. I try each year to improve this and give the people I love what they deserve.

Be a good wife. I was just married in August 2017 so this is a fresh one to my list. I am taking being a wife very seriously, I’m very old school romantic so I except myself to tend to my husband a lot. Ironically, my husband expects nothing from me but always appreciates everything I do. That is just an added bonus and motivates me more to be everything for my husband.

Be true to myself. I have struggled with this one for a very long time but I do feel that I’m getting better. It’s not that I ever tried to be someone that I wasn’t but I often will sacrifice my own happiness and energy to make someone else happy. The older that I get, the more I value how I spend my time and invest my energy in. Life is too short to be anything but unhappy. With that being said, it makes me VERY happy to make other people happy. I’ll always be a giver but I am finding that it’s okay to give back to myself sometimes.

Be a writer. I remember writing a book report in the fourth grade about, The Black Stallion by Walter Farley. I was excited to read the book and I was excited to write about it. I remember taking time to really craft my openings so I knew who ever read this would want to read more. I turned it into my teacher and she was blow away at my use of words and how I wrote. That started it for me. I fell head over heels in love with writing. All through school and college I had teachers compliment my writing in some way. I loved every English class and always looked forward to them. At a very young age I started keeping notebooks with poems and songs written in them. I had notebooks with pages full of my writing. Whichever notebook I was currently writing in, always came with me. I’d have a burst of inspiration and I’d start writing no matter where I was. I never fully believed in myself though. I didn’t see it as something I could be successful at. And then one day I thought, “why not?” My dream is to write children’s book and eventually a few fiction novels. I hope to one day publish a book that keeps being read long after I am gone. To know my words could leave an impression on so many people for so many years to come gives me all of the feels. That is my dream. Will that goal be reached in 2018? Probably not but by the end of the year, I will have made PROGRESS. Each year it becomes more important to me.

I’m always so disappoint when I see people talk negatively about resolutions. Sometimes it takes people a few times of trying before they gather their strength to truly commit. Be support and kind to people. As the saying goes, fall down seven and stand up eight.

To all of my readers, I hope you find inspiration from me in some way from reading my post. It’s New Year. If you want a new you, go for it! Maybe you won’t crush your goals this year but you will be a little closer to crushing it.



This Mom’s Beauty Survival Guide!

Some days I wake up, look in the mirror and I hardly recognize myself.

Who is this woman staring back at me and where did I go?

I am starting to see lines that were not there before, my eyes tend to look like I haven’t slept in weeks and my skin can be dull.

This is completely normal, my fellow mamas. Being a mother means less sleep and less time to take care of yourself, especially in those first few crazy years of motherhood. You can’t even go to the bathroom by yourself let alone take some time to get a facial

Let me that with any beauty product, it times take and consistency. If you take my advice and use any of my beauty hacks, you will have to b e consistent and patience. But we are moms so patience is our thing, right? Ha! And its always best to try to prevent wrinkles because that it much easier then waiting for them to appear.

Every morning and night I take 15 minutes to myself to take care of me. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it is way easier said then done. Some mornings I have to lock myself in the bathroom in order to fix myself all while hearing little taps on the door followed by, “mommy, are you almost done?” Oy vey. Gotta love motherhood!

Lets begin with the mornings. Typically I set my alarm for a few hours before my children wake up so I can get their bookbags ready, pack lunches, mentally prepare for the morning battle of what my daughter wants to wear to school, enjoy a few cups of coffee, and finally, do my morning skin care routine.

(By the way, the best part of this list is that it is all affordable because I am as cheap as they come. I also have provided links to take you directly to them on amazon so you do not have to do any of your own searching. Just click the products picture! Have I mentioned how much I LOVE Amazon Prime?!)

Let me start by saying that I have spent ALOT of money at Ulta and Sephora trying to be amazed by face wash. I have combination skin so I get oily and I get dry. When I started to look for something to combat wrinkles, I said screw it and bought a local name brand, Loreal RevitaLyft, and let me tell you it works wonders. I love what it has done for my skin. It has evened out my completion and really gave my skin a good lift. I’m a customer for life now.

A good moisturizer will do wonders for you! Kate Sommerville Glow moisturizer really lifts me up in the morning. It add a simple sparkle to my skin that I really need to feel alive when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. I have tried several things from her line and I must say I am impressed. Unfortunately, her products are far too expensive for me to splur on too often.

I am going to be completely upfront with this next beauty hack. It may look a little intimidating but it is truly a god send! It’s called a derma roller and it really helps to keep your skin plump. I also love how it adds a flushed color to my cheeks. I, personally, have a high pain tolerance so rolling this over my cheeks every other morning works fine for me.  Lips, now that’s another story, OUCH. I put a little numbing cream on my lips if I want to give them a good roll over.

the derma roller works by puncturing the skin signaling to your collagen that it needs to repair itself. I can not speak highly enough about this product. It comes in different sizes so you will have to customize what fits your needs most. I use the .25.

Below is another must have of mine and may not be too heard of! I AM SO IN LOVE WITH THIS LITTLE PIECE OF MAGIC! It is a high frequency facial machine. It works against wrinkles, scars and keeps skin plump. It can even help hair grow! I use this after I layer my moisturizer on so I can glide it around my face with ease. This one looks a little scary as well but rest assure its very simple! I especially love to use this in the morning when my eyes look a little puffy.

I use the below product at night around my eyes. I can say that I have zero crows feet (yet)and I believe I owe a lot of it too this product. It also nourishes my eyelashes well so they are strong and healthy for mascara. It’s too thick and oily to wear during the day so this is a strict night time product. I put a small dap on my fingertips and rub around my eyes in a circular motion. One bottle lasts a long time! This budget mama likes that.

Loreal Revital Lift, we meet again. I LOVE the night time cream by their line. I may be getting a little too excited when I say this but I look forward to what my skin looks like when I wake up. If I stumble to bed without rubbing this all over my face, I avoid the mirror in the morning. HA! But seriously, it has retinol in it which is amazing to fight wrinkles with. I’m pretty much sold that anything from this line with not let me down.

Now we have come to my last go to beauty product. First Aid Beauty (who will always have a soft spot in my heart) has an AMAZING moisturizer. I use this at night and it is amazing for the winter when dry skin creeps up on you. First Aid Beauty has a great skin care line for those with extra sensitive skin. I first stumbled across their line when I was pregnant with my daughter and all of a sudden everything made my skin burn like it was on fire. No, seriously, my skin literally felt like it was burning off of my face no matter what I put on it. I had many times of standing in front of the freezer rubbing ice cubes on my face while tears ran down my face.

And there you have it! These are my MUST haves for my skin. And I am loving the results! The last few months I have pushed myself to be consistent and my skin looks better than ever. Do you see any products on my list that you would want to try? Be sure to let me know.

Also, I can not seem to find a sunscreen that I can fall in love with. Any recommendations? We all know how important sun protection is and trust me, I take it seriously especially that I am getting older. My problem is though, most of them make my skin look oily. I HATE THAT. So please, send some screens that you love my way. Maybe it will make it onto my next list 🙂

Welcome to My Side of the Motherhood.

Parenting is hard.

Everything about it is hard. We are raising living, breathing, actual human beings who will spend years and years sucking the energy right out of us and demanding that we constantly feed them… And then… just like that.. they will be gone. No more waking up with your toddler’s butt cheek parallel to your face (why am I laying in a puddle? Oh it’s pee). No more explaining why butter can not be the main dish for dinner. No more requests to make up magical, action packed bedtime stories on the spot. If the thought of that does not make you snivel, then you might be Chuck Norris.

Every mother knows what I am talking about. We all have our days of clenching onto our child’s lifelong stuffed monkey while rocking back and forth in a corner sobbing in self pity at the thought of MY LITTLE BABIES NOT NEEDING ME ANYMORE.

We all have those days.

I have been known to write too long of a mushy, proud mommy status, on Facebook. No shame, by the way. I am a damn amazing (not perfect) mother. I cringe at the word perfect. I’m still learning and I’m blessed to have two kids to grow up with. I am a passionate mother and that makes me fierce beyond recognition, even when i feel like I’m failing as a mom.

The mind boggling part of motherhood is how the one thing that a mother is so strong for (her children), is the first ones that will bring her to her knees. We are mothers, hear us roar! And then your son tells you there is no where in the world he would rather be than with you. And back to the corner I go to rock and cry at the thought of him being a teen, wanting to spend his free time with his friends. I am mother, hear me cry? PARENTING IS SO HARD. As much as I’d love to keep them to myself forever, I’m selfless enough to know that they need to spread their wings. I am a crucial part of their lives but I know I can’t keep them to myself forever. It is a part of them growing up. Excuse me while I go back to my corner.

You’re not alone walking the streets of motherhood. Throughout my posts there will be cursing, questioning, laughing, thanking and all the feels. Read my blogs and we can cry over spilt milk together. For the record, who ever said that there is no point in crying over spilt milk has never spent 2 hours unclogging their milk ducts just to accidently knock over the 2 ounces they managed to get out. Oh my poor nipples.

Welcome to my ‘hood.