My children will grow up and venture into the world without me one day. As much as I would love to wrap my arms around their feet, kicking and screaming as they try to venture off without me, but I know as a mother I can’t do that. I have to let my peacocks fly. Wait… you get the point.
The tender years that we do get to drill core values and morals into out children are crucial. Do not let you kid be that jerk in the world. Over my dead body. Here is a list of 5 things that I truly hope my son always carries with him.
1. ALWAYS TREAT EVERYONE WITH KINDESS AND EQUALITY.
I can not stress this enough. Blood runs through everyone’s veins and no one’s blood has gold flakes in them, at least not naturally. We all have our own demons that we are facing and most of us are trying our best. From the janitor at your school to the CEO of your job, off the same kindest and respect. Be that light in someone’s life. People can love whoever they want and no one can help the color of their skin. Be kind to them and remember that no race, gender, gender identify, or anything makes anyone less deserving then anyone else.
2. NEVER LOOK DOWN ON SOMEONE UNLESS YOU’RE HELPING THEM UP
Give the benefit of the doubt, forgive people when they mess up, and try not to judge. Some days will be easier than others but if you can make this a 90/10 balance in your life then you are doing a good job. Absolutely no one is perfect, try to remember that.
3. THE COMPANY YOU KEEP WILL DEFINE YOU
Unfortunately, the saying is true that you are who your friends are. Try to surround yourself with good people, know the pact you run with. This will be challenging because people change and sometimes people lie. I am not asking you to turn your cheek to the bad apples, I am asking you to always stay true to yourself and make sure your feet are planted to the ground.
4. YOUR DREAMS ARE NEVER TOO BIG
I am not saying this because I am you mother, I am saying this because I truly believe this. If you have a dream, do not listen to anyone who says you can not reach it. Listen to the people who tell you it’s going to be hard work but if you’re up for the challenge and dedication, any dream can come true.
5. TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS
So many things in life go unsaid and I can only imagine the amount of guilt that people have felt on there death beds because of this. If you fall in love, tell the girl. If you think someone’s shoes are cool, tell them. Communication will get you noticed and people will respect you for it. You are more than a stereotype, break down the walls that confine you.
I see these qualities in my son everyday and it is my job as his mother to keep instilling them in him until they stick. He will move mountains one day and I am so happy that I get a front row seat to watch him.